For those who want sales advice, the sex stores listed below offer trans male-friendly tips and information about dildo/dick and harness use

1. the overall size/shape of the dildo/dick (diameter, length, contour, texture) 2. the firmness of the dildo/dick 3. the angle of penetration (this can be effected by both the angle/curve of the dick itself and also by sexual position) 4. the amount of control allowed by the method used to wear the dildo/dick (i.e. does the harness fit well, does the harness or other attachment method hold the dick firmly, does the ring in the harness allow for good fit around the shaft or balls, etc .) 5. lubrication 6. practice and communication

Be sure to choose a lubricant which is compatible with both the dildo/dick and a condom if you are using one. One should look for a harness or other hard packing method that is both comfortable and holds the dildo/dick firmly at the base so that it allows for maximum control of motion. If a dildo/dick has balls, a harness should be chosen that can accommodate it for best fit. And– obviously– size, shape and positioning can be adjusted according to your own body as well as your partner’s body. For example, a guy with a big belly might choose a slightly longer dick because his angle of penetration might not be the same as a guy with a flat belly. Or, a guy might choose a smaller or larger dick depending on his partner’s needs.

100% silicone dildos/dicks: product listings There are a number of silicone dildos/dicks that are modeled to provide a look that is life-like in appearance and color– some are more successful in that endeavor than others. Vixen Creations has made progress in creating a softer skin-like outer layer on their “VixSkin” products, for example, and many of the products listed in the prosthetics section have made amazing strides in realism.

I’ve included listings from these shops because they have good online stores and because they are positive and affirming of diversity in gender and sexuality

Because of the wide variance in the people who use dildos, there is a wide variance in their size, shape, and appearance. For the most part (unless otherwise noted), I have included models that mimic the look of a penis, while also trying to allow for some variety in size and shape. Also, keep in mind that some silicone models are available with balls, but many are not– this is partly due to the fact that models with balls are sometimes harder to use with certain harnesses. The online retailers offer photos of the products listed below; I have noted below which models feature balls and which do not.

To make organization of this section a bit easier, I have divided it by online retailer. The online retailers I have included herein include: The Tool Shed of Milwaukee, Early to Bed of Chicago, and The Smitten Kitten of Minneapolis. You may have a different store that is local to you that offers similar products, and may be able to special order items seen here.

Some of the products you see below may be listed by more than one store, and prices may vary slightly from store to store. Some stores also seem to measure the size of dildos/dicks slightly differently, but in general you should be able to get a good idea of the products by checking their web sites and asking questions for further detail on size, firmness, exact color, etc.